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Bullied Adults – An article by NoBullying.com

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Instances of adults being bullied are more common than people think. People most often associate the word “bullying” with school children and teens who are being picked on by their peers or older siblings. Bullying is common in other areas as well. It can occur in colleges at fraternities, the workplace and social organizations. Governments have also been known to use bullying tactics to achieve their goals. Knowing and understanding the concepts used by bullies makes it apparent that it can happen at any time and place where individuals of different levels of maturity and strengths interact with one another.

By definition, a bully is someone who uses force, threats or other means to control or manipulate another person. Bullying tactics are used by individuals of all ages, sexes, gender, ethnic and religious persuasions. It can enacted against another person for financial gain, revenge, to simply control or to degrade. Whatever the circumstances, the results can cause lasting damage to the victims’ emotional, mental and physical health.

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Making students feel safe: Schools prioritize bullying education

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While educators teach math, reading and social studies during the school year, anti-bullying policies and lessons have also catapulted to the top of curricula in every school in Florida.
In 2008, Florida passed the "Jeffrey Johnston Stand Up for All Students Act" to prohibit the bullying or harassment of a student or employee of a public K-12 education institution in the state. Broward County was the first to implement the policy. Several years later, schools are putting a major emphasis on bullying prevention to make sure students and teachers feel safe and protected.
Bullying is defined as systematically and chronically inflicting physical hurt or psychological distress on students or employees, and it includes cyberbullying. The acronym R.I.P. (Repeated, Imbalance of power and Purposeful) is used to help identify the behavior.
Even though each county has its own specific measures and resources in place, the underlying theme of zero tolerance is paramount in all of them.
Broward County Public Schools use the “ABC’s of Bullying Prevention” book, which contains three bullying prevention lessons for every grade level and is designed to be taught annually.
"Each grade lesson is different but contains the essential concepts regarding bullying that students must understand in order for their Attitude and Behavior to Change: Attitude + Behavior = Change," said Tresha Fletcher, a program specialist in the Broward Schools’ Diversity, Cultural Outreach and Prevention Department. "We want all students to respect each other and feel safe and protected in school, in addition to making sure they have a trusted adult to speak to if they feel bullied or know someone being bullied."

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One in Six Adolescents in the ER Has Experienced Dating Violence

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Of adolescents visiting the emergency department for any reason, one in five girls and one in eight boys reported dating violence in the past year.  According to a study published online Monday in Annals of Emergency Medicine, dating violence among adolescents was also strongly associated with alcohol, illicit drug use and depression ("Dating Violence Among Male and Female Youth Seeking Emergency Department Care") http://tinyurl.com/oakk4aq

"An enormous number of youth and adolescents have already experienced violence in their dating lives," said lead study author Vijay Singh, MD, MPH, MS of the University of Michigan Injury Center and Department of Emergency Medicine in Ann Arbor, Mich.  "Patterns that begin in adolescence can carry over to adulthood.  Screening and intervention among youth with a history of dating violence can be critical to reducing future adult intimate partner violence."

Researchers screened 4,089 males and females age 14 to 20 who were seeking care in a suburban emergency department for dating violence within the past year.   Nearly three-quarters (72.9 percent) were Caucasian, the majority (86.9 percent) were enrolled in school and just over one-quarter (25.8 percent) received public assistance.  Of females, 18.4 percent reported past year dating violence, 10.6 percent reported dating victimization and 14.6 percent reported dating aggression.  Of males, 12.5 percent reported past year dating violence, 11.7 percent reported dating victimization and 4.9 percent reported dating aggression. 

Violent acts received by a young adult are called dating victimization; violent acts perpetrated by youth are called dating aggression. 

Factors associated with dating violence for both males and females were African-American race, alcohol misuse, illicit drug misuse and depression.  In addition, females reporting prior dating violence were also more likely to be on public assistance, to have grades of D or below and to have visited the emergency department in the prior year for an intentional injury.

"With this many youth and adolescents experiencing either dating victimization or dating aggression, it’s dangerously easy for the behavior to become ‘normalized,’" said Dr. Singh.  "Simply treating the injury and not assessing for dating violence loses an opportunity for injury prevention and breaking the cycle of violence.  Because African-American youth experienced greater odds of dating violence than their Caucasian peers, culturally tailored interventions will be essential."

Annals of Emergency Medicine is the peer-reviewed scientific journal for the American College of Emergency Physicians, the national medical society representing emergency medicine. ACEP is committed to advancing emergency care through continuing education, research, and public education. Headquartered in Dallas, Texas, ACEP has 53 chapters representing each state, as well as Puerto Rico and the District of Columbia. A Government Services Chapter represents emergency physicians employed by military branches and other government agencies. For more information, visit www.acep.org.

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How to Stand Up to a Bully at Work

You’d think that once you outgrow the playground, bullying would be a thing of the past. Only young kids who don’t know any better are bullies, right? Unfortunately that’s not the case, and there are many adult bullies out there, too. Perhaps they never fully matured, or something happened in their lives to make them bitter.
Whatever the case, an adult bully can sometimes be even tougher than a child.

Instead of messing with you at school, they make things hard for you in the workplace. Doing your job and enjoying work is difficult if not impossible with them around. If you have a bully at your place of employment, what can you do about it? Here are some tips on how to stand up to a bully at work. 

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Take the High Road

No matter what your bully does to you, it’s incredibly important to refrain from stooping to their level. Try to keep your cool, and always act professionally. Don’t yell, get emotional, or try to get revenge. Do your best to ignore the bully and not show yourself being affected by their actions. Sometimes just seeing that they aren’t getting to you is enough to make a bully ease up.

Reassure Yourself

If you want to stand up to your bully, it’s important to have confidence in yourself. The bully could be wearing you down and impacting your self-esteem, but you need to reassure yourself that you are not doing anything wrong. The bully’s actions don’t reflect any inadequacies or wrong on your part. Their actions are only a result of their own insecurities and weaknesses.

Confront the Bully

Standing up to the bully at work can, and usually should, be a direct approach. Gather the nerve and talk to them privately. Let them know the specific things they’re doing and how they’re affecting you. It’s possible they didn’t realize their actions were so harmful. On the other hand, they may respect that you will stand up for yourself and lose interest in bullying you. In the worst case scenario when the bully gets mean or aggressive in the confrontation, do not lose your cool, end the conversation, and walk away.

Talk to Coworkers

It’s probable that you’re not the only one being negatively affected by your bully. Talk privately with your coworkers and gather their opinions on the matter. If they’re feeling the same way you are, you can take a united stand against the bullying and work together to stand up to the bully.

Arm Yourself

One of the best things you can do to protect yourself against your bully is to keep a journal documenting all the incidents of bullying you experience. Write down what occurred, where, when, and if there were any witnesses. In the event that the bully tries to refute your claims of harassment, you’ll have documentation supporting your side of the story.

Talk to Your Boss or HR

When you’ve tried everything and the bully still won’t let up, it’s time to speak with your boss or human resources. Bringing the matter to their attention will hopefully bring about positive change.

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Five Social Media Warnings That Tell You Your Teen is in Trouble

Social media is the latest craze for teens. While social media allows our teens to talk and share with their friends, join groups that interest them, take part in online events and meet new people, it can also be a dangerous place.

Cyber bullying is an epidemic that is quickly spreading and has already taken the lives of so many individuals. Teens are also naive, and social media allows them to easily fall victim to bad influences.

As parents, it is our responsibility to monitor our child’s online activities and play and active role in their life. If our teen is in trouble, they will often feel like they can’t turn to their parents, but they will share it will hundreds of social media friends and followers. The following are five social media warnings that will tell you your teen is in trouble.

1. Depressing or irrational posts

If your teen is depressed, they may turn to social media to express their feelings. Maybe they posted a video to YouTube discussing how the world would be better without them. Maybe they’re always tweeting quotes about death.

If your child has been posting status updates that don’t make sense or seem completely irrational, it could be a sign that they’re abusing drugs or alcohol. If you notice posts that seem out of the ordinary, it may be time to take a closer look at the situation.

2. Significant decrease in friends/followers

If your child is depressed or being cyber bullied, they may unfriend or unfollow a large chunk of their network. If you notice that your child recently went from 800 Facebook friends to 120, you should try to figure out why. They could be cutting people out of their life that they don’t think care about them, or they could be blocking people who have been cyber bullying them.

3. Significant increase in new friends

If your child has recently accumulated a bunch of new friends, it may be an indicator that they’re hanging out with a new crowd. Maybe they switched groups because their old friends started bullying them or pressuring them to do something they didn’t want to do. Or maybe they started abusing drugs or alcohol and have made new friends from their new habit.

4. They’ve changed their social media habits

If your teen used to be obsessed with social media sites, and now they barely touch the computer, it could be a sign that something has happened or is happening on that has made your child disengage. Try to talk with your child to get to the root of the problem.

5. There’s a ton of inappropriate comments on their wall/feed

You can tell if your teen is in trouble by monitoring the comments left on their Facebook wall or Twitter feed. If you notice an increase in lewd or inappropriate comments, then there was obviously an even that occurred to spark the increase.

As a parent, the safety and well being of your child is the most important. No matter what warning signs you notice, it is always important to keep an open line of communication with your teen. Let them know that you are here for them, get them to open up to you, and solve their problem together.

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Father Files Restraining Order Against 9-Year-Old for Allegedly Bullying His Son

A California father whose son was reportedly bullied at school has filed a restraining order against the 9-year-old boy allegedly responsible for the abuse.

Stephan Feuder said he had no other option than to get the restraining order after the boy allegedly assaulted his own 9-year-old son on the grounds of the 700-student Rolling Hill Elementary School in Fairfield, Calif. The alleged assault happened on March 13 as his son was trying to protect another student from abuse, Feuder said.

"My son was protecting another little boy that was being bullied by the known school bully," Feuder told ABC News today. "My son stepped in between them and then my son was pushed, my son pushed him back and subsequently after that the little boy came up and punched my son in the face."

But school officials noted that an isolated incident does not necessarily constitute bullying, and furthermore, the district must act according to many rules and laws.
Feuder said he learned about the incident after his son called him from the school’s bathroom. The school district, according to Feuder, was unwilling to step in.
"They don’t want the school to look bad," Feuder said.

So, Feuder sought and obtained a temporary restraining order from a judge at Solano County Family Court, which stipulated that the alleged bully must remain 2 yards away from Feuder’s son at all times and have no contact with him whatsoever.

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Cyber-bullying bill inspired by Polk suicide advanced by Senate

computer keyboard Florida’s anti-bullying law could be extended beyond the boundaries of schools to online forums under a proposal sparked by a Polk County cyber-bullying case that drew a national media spotlight.

Florida already requires public schools to police bullying on their grounds. But the Senate Appropriations Subcommittee on Criminal and Civil Justice advanced a bill Wednesday (SB 548) making it a crime to do so off the school grounds or online.

“Today, with the click of a key a person can destroy the life of another person,” said the bill sponsor, Sen. David Simmons, R-Altamonte Springs. “There are a group of people who can say anything or do anything on the Internet. They feel there are no limits.”

Prosecutors this winter dropped charges against two teen girls accused of cyber-bullying 12-year-old Rebecca Ann Sedwick of Lakeland until she committed suicide. Polk County Sheriff Grady Judd had arrested the girls accused of stalking and harassing Rebecca and their arrest was broadcast in front of news cameras.

Rebecca jumped to her death last September from a tower at an abandoned cement plant in Lakeland.

The bill would make it a second degree misdemeanor penalty for bullying and a first degree misdemeanor for aggravated bullying, with cyber-bullying falling under the definition.

Sen. Darren Soto, an Orlando Democrat questioned whether the bill was tough enough to have made a difference in the Sedwick case.

The concept of the bill is that activity where an individual “willfully, maliciously and repeatedly harasses or cyber-bullies” another, they could face up to 1 year in jail and $1,000 fine.

The full article available on The Orlando Sentinel

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Bullying Breakdown: 7 signs your child may be bullied

I was 12 years old, and none of the things I once loved appealed to me anymore. I didn’t want to go shopping. I didn’t want to open Christmas presents. I didn’t want to get out of bed. As a victim of day-in and day-out bullying, I was depressed and life no longer seemed worth living.

But as bad as my depression had become, it was not the worst bullying symptom.

I developed a “stress cough” from the anxiety of the bullying and coughed for three months without stop.

The scariest part was that I couldn’t breathe.

I became so anxious that my chest tightened, and I fainted several times throughout the day.

If your child is feeling anxious, depressed or withdrawn, do not pass it off as “teen syndrome.” These warning signs may indicate serious physical, emotional, or psychological distress. Pay attention to a change in your child’s behavior, and take immediate action if you suspect he is a victim of bullying. I’m not a medical doctor, and my advice should not be substituted for medical consultation. If you suspect that your child is being bullied, seek immediate professional help.

This article details several ways to detect that your child may be experiencing bullying including withdrawal, loss of appetite, emotional outbursts, truancy, defiance, falling grades and self-harm